Did I Get Sexually Wild at 50?

Fri, 08/11/2017 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am an attractive professional woman who is a flight attendant for a well known Airline and just recently turned 50 and still have a sexy body and legs. MY husband and I have been married for 14 yrs with no kids and he works nights for an automotive company. We have ok sex regularly but I don't always have orgasms with him. My husband thinks old fashioned religious beliefs and would not approve of me masturbating.

When I am home alone and he has gone to work I enjoy relaxing and experimenting with different ways to masturbate to orgasm. And I love the intense screaming explosive orgasms. I just learned to edge my orgasms. I am masturbating more now than when I was younger. I don't try anything harmful but some things I try to bring myself to orgasm with are embarrassing but the orgasms are SO SO intense. I have to be discreet so household items are sometimes used with cucumbers and water jets,vacuum pump,etc.

I have the best female friend ever who I confide in, and she has been in an open marriage for 10yrs. She is 40 her husband is 38 and Lisa has shared a lot about masturbation with me and suggested for me to try a "Don't ask, don't tell" sex with her and her husband. I have been a faithful wife but had to try it once. I never knew my first time would be so much pleasure with another woman and another man. I promised myself I would not let her husband cum inside me, but he was giving me intense multiple orgasms which he had amazing control and I lost control.

I locked my legs around him as he picked up the pace and moaned that he was going to cum. I screamed " Cum inside me" - don't know why I yelled out? he grunted and forcefully started cumming inside me causing me to explode in orgasm again. Good thing I can't get pregnant because he shot a big load inside me and I mean a lot. Lisa was saying just let it happen it's ok. I know I can't tell my husband so I think I will just enjoy masturbating privately. Did I get sexually wild at 50????????

Thank you Betty I love everything you and Carlin stand for.


Dear D,

You deserve any and all sexual pleasures you can manage. Congratulations! Just keep your own council and hubby will never know. Sex is really a form of adult play after we have done having children. Enjoy yourself.

Dr Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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I think it's normal

Tue, 08/15/2017 - 14:45

The best sex I experienced was with above 40 y o women because their sexual desires are very anchored and defined. It was more a masturbation watching eachother than actual sex because of our fear to catch diseases and get pregnant plus sometimes their principles of not willing to cheat limit it to some erotic masturbation. Older women sense pleasure better because more thoughts get connected to it and many paths of thoughts can lead to great orgazm. It's not about the mechanical ways of sex with older more than it is the thoughts that are so erotic. It is normal just keep getting that pussy horny and satisfied

Admire your courage

Wed, 08/16/2017 - 00:42
skip (not verified)

I just wanted to let you know I admire your courage for taking the steps that you did to "rediscover" your sexuality at the "young" age of 50.  Living with a partner who does not have the same sexual energy as oneself is tough and often times frustrating.  I am a "young" 56 year old man whose wife of almost 30 years has decided that she is done with sex and no longer wants to share that part of her with me.  Frustrating?  You bet.  I have tried many times to initiat but have been pushed away often enough that I don't even bother anymore.  I do masturbate often and explore my fantasies through masturbation which has helped me to keep sane with my desires.  I've gone beyond just stroking and have enjoyed expanding my practice with toys and exploring other parts of my body.  But I have to say I do miss the connection, both mentally and physically, with another person....and think that it might be time to try the "don't ask, don't tell" approach.  A part of me feels guilty for going this route....the cheating.  But I have tried reasoning with my wife and she is unwilling to meet me half way.  So is it cheating?  Not sure....but I have learned to delay cumming and feel that I could give another person pleasure and share my body with another who is willing and adventurous to share theirs with mine.  Anyways, thank you for giving me a little inspiration.  

Good for you, you deserve good orgasms

Mon, 08/21/2017 - 12:44
Martha B (not verified)

Good for you D. I'm so glad you have taken control and allow yourself the pleasure and growth. Taking your time to masturbate and time to masturbate more. You are already discovering the joys and what you would have been missing otherwise. Any unconditional love would surely regoice and encourage that so take comfort in that.
I do not think it is unusual at all, especially these days, to explore and embrace your orgasm as you have and I encourage you to continue to pursue and develop that part of yourself. 
We all need and should spend more time and focus developing and strengthening our orgasm and you are no exception.  I only hope you and your husband will one day be able to open up to each other so her can journey together in your new found path to happiness and satisfaction.  But one should never let a relationship keep us chained and unsatisfied as we only have one life to live that after all. 

D, I am just an average,

Fri, 09/08/2017 - 18:11
twocents (not verified)


I am just an average, 50-something male who is trying hard to keep the sexual flames burning, and a big part of this adventure is reading the posts and responses of the amazing Carlin and Ross. I haven't find much from or about the 50-something crowd, so thank you for sharing your story - it is very relateable.

I didn't get wilder after I crested 50, but OMG the orgasms have gotten intense. My wife (also 50+ and still looking amazing) has luckily not lost her desire, but after she lost her mom she seems more intent on becoming more conservative. She rarely says "no" when I initiate, but I can fly solo many times waiting on her to get things started. I have read so many posts of men in my position who have no luck at home so it feels wrong griping when I can get as much as I am willling to ask for.

My gripe is that with all that is available on the internet and at the pharmacy, we could be having as much sex as we did a few years ago. So like you I look forward to a little alone time and am so amazed at how intense things now are. And I've also learned that a little experimentation can lead to some incredible results. Also like you I have thought about expanding on this with someone different, but feelings of guilt (and she and I have the same work schedules = little opportunity) make that difficult.

So for now I have to live vicariously through people like you. Thanks for the very descriptive, excellent story. I hope you have other, similar adventures and share those as well.