How Can I Manage My Jealousy?

Fri, 02/02/2018 - 09:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

First, thank you very much for sharing your wisdom with us. It's been a live changing for me since I discover I had "small" orgasms and kept developing them.

Now I got a question about something that is killing my loving relationships. I have this horrible tendency to get "over jealous" when I think my partners are fantasising with someone else. Once my partner told me he finds "wonder woman" hot before going to see the movie. I got so "jealous" on thinking he is fantasising having sex with her (instead of me) so I didn’t want to watch the movie.

Another time, one of my best friends with big breast came with a huge cleavage and showing almost half of her breast to my house. My partner did an excellent job not to look but he had told me he likes big breast, so I got so jealous thinking my partner is fantasising about having sex with her.

How can I manage this crazy feeling? On a rational way I know its normal for his to like something I don’t have or I am not.. Or tell my next partner to not tell me what he likes that I don’t have? (big breast, but, etc). Please help!!!


Dear K,

You can easily ruin your life with jealousy or possessive feelings toward your lover. Make an effort to understand why you are so insecure. Perhaps some professional help is in order, some short term counseling. Most women have some degree of jealousy or envy.

We are asked by our culture to always be beautiful, ladylike but slutty in the bedroom. It's a tall order. Just don't ruin your life by becoming the jealous girlfriend! Know your own worth.

Dr Betty

Liberating women one orgasm at a time

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know your worth

Sat, 02/03/2018 - 10:06

Great advice from Betty yet again - know your worth!

Know that you are valued by your partner, that they are choosing everyday to wake up with you and share your life & also understand that you are doing the same with them.

Talking therapy to help develop a sense of our own self-worth and to help us work out what we actually want from life can be really useful. It's something that can be life changing so is certainly worth thinking about.