Betty Dodson's blog

How Can I Relax & Embrace Pleasure During Pregnancy?

Thu, 05/25/2017 - 07:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

first of all, thank you for doing this noble work of yours.

I have been in a loving, monogamous relationship with my man for about five years.  Before him, I had six partners and not really fulfilling romantic or sexual life. My first partner was satisfying me, but I cannot even remember the details since it was very long time ago and I mostly remember being very unhappy about him not wanting to be anything else but my fuck-friend.

Why Am I Sad After Amazing Sex?

Wed, 05/17/2017 - 13:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I have recently experienced something confusing and I would love your perspective. I met a man with whom I have unprecedented chemistry. We had mind-blowing sex, he was by far the best lover I ever had. In a way, he encompasses all the best skills and attributes of many of my previous / other lovers. Still, I cannot shake off feelings of sadness that I experienced just after a very intense orgasm with him.

My first question to him after coming was 'are you happy in life?' as if I tapped into some sadness of unknown origin. Have you ever experienced anything like that?

How to know if this sadness is mine or his (ie. I could have felt it due to intense interpersonal connection?

N

Dear N,

I Have Absolutely No Sex Drive

Thu, 05/11/2017 - 07:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I'm 46 years old and peri-menopausal. I'm also on anti-anxiety meds right now. The result? I have absolutely no sex drive!! And when I try to have sex with my husband, I don't get wet like I used to and my orgasms elude me (and I'm used to having multiple orgasms every time!!). A sure fire way for me to cum is for my hubby to eat my pussy. That's how I have all my orgasms.

For the past many many months, however....NOTHING! I don't self lubricate and I don't cum. Not to mention I don't crave sex anymore (something I always loved!). Is this totally normal for a woman my age? Will I get my drive back once menopause is done?

How long will that take? What's a girl to do?

K

Does the Penis Have 8,000 Nerve Endings Like the Clitoris?

Sun, 05/07/2017 - 14:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I read that there are 8,000 nerve endings on the female clitoris. On women who have large clitorises, it looks just like a male penis head.

It strikes me that there might be the same number of nerve ending on a penis - what do you think?

Dear I,

Circumcised or uncut? I doubt the head of a penis has that many nerve endings as it would be too sensitive to own. Remember the glans clitoris is protected under the hood of the clitoris. I believe there is a very sensitive spot just under the head of the penis that resembles a V and is very responsive. Basically it all feels good with additional lubrication like Almond or Coconut oil.

Dr Betty

Could Asymmetrical Labia be Blocking My Orgasm?

Tue, 05/02/2017 - 07:15
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello!

I love your site and I hope you could help me with this.

I'm 16 years old and I've never been able to have an orgasm. A lot of my friends talk about it and stuff. I tried different methods but nothing seem to work.

I feel like something is wrong with my vagina. It looks ugly. It's asymmetric and there's only one labia. I feel really insecure about it. Another thing I found on the internet is that about 10% of women have never have and never will be able to have an orgasm. That scares me. I don't want to be among them.

Please do help me.

Dear B,

Is My Penis Too Small?

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty

I might not have such a special problem, it seems like there are questions sort of like mine all over the internet, but few people take it seriously or they take a PC approach to everything to the point they just totally dissmiss the posters questions. The people who answer seem to be more worried about their reputation and how their answer will be seen or thought of, rather than speaking the truth about things.

I Can Never Seem to Get Myself All the Way There

Fri, 04/21/2017 - 07:49
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm 22 years old and a virgin and I have never had an orgasm. I masturbate fairly regularly, sometimes multiple times a day, but I can never seem to get myself all the way there. I know where my clitoris is, that's not a problem, and I get very wet when I touch myself. It feels good when I rub my clit but after a while either gets sore, or it's just boring and stops feeling like anything at all. I have a vibrate too but it doesn't really give me any pleasure, it feels almost the same as it might if I held it against my arm or something.

Think I Developed Extra Skin on My Clitoral Hood From Masturbating

Sun, 04/16/2017 - 14:21
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

When I was pregnant, I developed a growth of skin on one side of my clitoral hood.

My OBGYN said she would remove it while I was delivering but for some reason or another it didn't happen. 10 years later, it's getting in my way when I'm trying to masterbate and I feel like it is taking a hit on my self esteem because I think I caused it by the skin to skin friction while masturbating. I've never seen anything like it in your pictures, and I'm shy to see a gynecologist about it now.

I was curious if you've ever seen something like that before, or if it's normal to develop extra skin from masturbating.

Thanks
H

Dear H,

How Long Does It Take a Shaving Cut on Your Labia to Heal?

Tue, 04/11/2017 - 08:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I just had an incident with my brand new razor. I was shaving, and I have hair just inside of my vaginal lips, so I tried to shave them... And felt a slight sting during. I thought nothing of it until I got out of the shower.

I have a cut from the clit connection to the labia minora (or looking up a detailed photo of a vagina, it's basically right on the Glands of the clitoris, but not actually on my clit and my clit appears to be unscathed). It's about half a centimeter or so I think, and it doesn't hurt right now, but I'm a little nervous and would like to know how long generally it will take to heal.

I won't be masturbating or having sex until it's healed because it looks terrifying.

Please help,
A

Dear A,

Can Sex Toys Retain Bacteria?

Mon, 04/03/2017 - 14:57
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi, Betty,

I have been using sex toys for many years. I am currently not with a partner. Recently I got more than one uti without having the typical painful uti symptoms. There were no symptoms at all. The most recent uti developed into severe sepsis and I was hospitalized for over a week and lucky to survive. A friend suggested perhaps it could be from a sex toy that somehow retained bacteria.

Now I am really concerned about trying to self-pleasure again. Do you have any suggestions?

E

Dear E,

How Can I be More Confident, Show Myself Naked & Please Her?

Fri, 03/31/2017 - 07:46
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hey.

I'm not sure if my questions are for here, but i don't know who to ask and talk about it. So I'll be glad if you can answer.

I'm 19y. lesbian in relationship for first time and we are 2 years together now.  We had "sex" for 1st time in the end of the last year ,but it's not like it should be. I'm too shy to have my clothes off cuz i don't like my body and especially my labia and, when we are making love lights are off, I keep my pants on.  You can imagine how amateur it is..

Did I Ruin My Clit from Unlubricated Masturbation?

Tue, 03/28/2017 - 08:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am 21 years old and have never really had a true orgasm. I fear I won't be able to. I discovered I could pleasure myself at an extremely young age. I use to masterbate by lying on my stomach with both my hands in a 'V' like shape on either side of my vagina and hump up and down. I'm worried I have ruined my clit due to improper and unlubricated masturbation.

I Feel & Think Too Much to Orgasm with a Partner

Tue, 03/21/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I've had this on my mind as of late and I'm going to try to put these feelings into words as simple as possible.

I'm 23 year Aspie old woman who has had both relationship and non-relationship penetrative sex - and I disliked both. I was in a one-year relationship with a wonderful guy I lost my virginity to and the sex was kinda unsatisfying. We were both inexperienced so it makes sense that the sex wasn't spectacular. He even had a difficult time staying hard and ejaculating. Eventually I grew tired and decided to clock out of the relationship, despite the fact that I still care for him. During that time, I started talking to another guy at school, who was the total opposite of my BF. He was much more sexually experienced but the sex itself was so painful.

Am I Asexual?

Thu, 03/16/2017 - 08:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I don't know whether I'm asexual or what's up with me. I'm a 24 year old girl. I can watch porn, get turned on and rub my clit until I orgasm, but whenever I've tried sexual things with someone else I just don't get turned on, if anything their bodily fluids (cum, saliva) disgust me and no amount of foreplay can get me wet

I fantasise about doing stuff with guys (and sometimes girls) and find them aesthetically pleasing to look at in images, but the real life thing doesn't do anything for me

What's up with me?

Thank you

J

Dear J,

If you are OK without a sex partner then stay single As long as you are masturbating and enjoying orgasms you are not considered asexual. Instead you are a selfsexual which is a valid lifestyle. Enjoy!