Betty Dodson's blog

Is My Clitoris Damaged from Leaning on Furniture?

Fri, 04/29/2016 - 07:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

Hello! I am 23 and am concerned about my vaginal health. Since I was a little girl, and really before I can even remember, I realized that grinding on corners of furniture felt good. I did it for as long as I can remember- before I even realized what I was doing. Once I realized that I was indeed masturbating, I continued to do so in this fashion because it felt good and I could climax with all my clothes on in less than a minute.

From Bodysex to An On Camera Interview for Nat Geo

Mon, 04/25/2016 - 07:08
Submitted by Betty Dodson

This past workshop was for women being certified to run their own Bodysex workshops and a lively bunch they were! Our Ritual Masturbation Circle took off and became outrageously hot, even bawdy, bordering on low down and dirty with women expressing immense joy with abandon.  Someone pinch me to make sure I’m not dreaming that this actually happened.

My Vagina is Dry Even When I Masturbate

Mon, 04/11/2016 - 07:28
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello!

I am a17 year old super virgin. I've never made out w a guy or even done anything sexually w one either. However, I do masturbate. I don't think I've ever had an orgasm but I also don't masturbate often. Recently I've been having trouble w the lubrication of my vagina. I never had a problem w getting or staying wet before ever.

Now I've noticed that my vagina is much more dryer than usual and I cannot stay wet when I masturbate. I did a bit of research but I am still baffled and conceded. I think it may be because I was on an acne medication called acutane for about over 6 months. I'm worried that if I do get w a guy I won't be able to get wet or stay wet.

I have no clue what's going on. Do you have any idea or suggestions? Anything would be helpful. Thanks :)

Did Labiaplasty Damage My Clitoris?

Fri, 04/08/2016 - 08:12
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I am writing because I have found your advice to other women with similar queries to be of great comfort, and feel that you may be able to help me with this problem.

I grew up in a household where both my mother and sister were incredibly body conscious, obsessed with their weight and appearance. At around eleven, I realised my vagina didn't look like the "pornstar" vagina idealised by the boys I went to school with. I suffered from depression for many years and then decided at the age of twenty to have a labiaplasty. I went to a surgeon recommended by my GP and the surgery went well - no scarring, pain or infections. Although there were no complications, I wish I had found a website like yours sooner as I don't think I would have gone through with it.

Whenever I Do a Pelvic Exam My Patients Apologize

Thu, 04/07/2016 - 08:02
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Dr. Betty,

I am a relatively new female physician, and I am writing to ask for some advice when providing gynaecological care for patients.

Specifically, my colleagues and I have noticed that whenever we need to perform any sort of pelvic exam, female patients almost always apologize. This usually takes the form of apologizing for their lack of shaving or waxing, any perceived abnormal anatomy, or many times women are just apologetic or ashamed in general. Interestingly, none of us have ever had a male patient apologize when performing a genital exam. Sometimes, I think that women are more worried about what they think their physician/nurse thinks about about "how they look," than the actual pelvic exam itself.

I Can't Bring Her to Orgasm Anymore

Fri, 04/01/2016 - 07:35
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dr. Betty,

First and foremost, hello. I am a new member on your site. I am in dire need of help. My problem is, I am in a long (international) distance relationship and my girlfriend is having problems achieving an orgasm. Of course, I have no problems getting mine. But the thing is, I would like to please her more and I don't enjoy it when she doesn't achieve an orgasm and I do. I'll admit at times I get worked up rather quickly and she loves long foreplay. Even with the addition of long foreplay she still doesn't orgasm. We don't get to see one another a lot because our relationship is an international one. We have a 16 month old child together and I know a child can run a person ragged.

I Waxed My Vulva

Tue, 03/29/2016 - 07:53
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Last year when a young woman requested a session with me, it wasn’t to learn about orgasm, but to get my response to her book on Pubic Hairstyles. Rhonda Coleman is a hair removal technician based in Chapel Hill, NC. When I saw her book proposal, I was impressed. How could women doubt the beauty of their vulvas once they had their very own beauty salon? Rhonda’s book had clever drawings with a multitude of different pubic hair styles available. From totally nude called a Brazilian, to hearts, triangles, landing strips as well as a zigzag lightening bolt. These designs were available in a variety of colors from Moss Beauty Studio.

What's the Difference Between Sexual Attraction & Objectification?

Sat, 03/26/2016 - 14:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Betty,

You're a feminist who is also very pro-sexual expression, so I'd like to get your opinion on this. What do you think is the difference between sexual attraction and objectification? Is there a difference? Personally, I think the lines are blurry as in my opinion all attraction is objectification to some degree.

B

Dear B,

Yes, Semantics is a bitch. While defining our individual meaning of words is important, it's also nearly impossible, I would agree with your observation that attraction and objectification are close to being the same thing. It could also be called "personal taste" in that we all have our favorite foods, colors, art, body types, etc.

Is It Common for Large Breasted Women to Suck Their Own Breasts?

Mon, 03/21/2016 - 07:26
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Dodson and Ms. Ross,

I've been blessed with very large boobs--DDDs. I have nice large sensitive nipples too that stay hard pretty much all the time. I love to have my tits sucked and licked. Very pleasurable for me!!! Recently, I discovered that I like to suck them too. I will do this while masturbating and it really gets me off!

Question: Am I weird for doing this? Is this a common thing for big breasted women to do? Do other women like this as well? I feel a tad freakish for doing it and am wondering if other women do it too. Thanks.

Dear J,

I Think I've Only Experienced Orgasm in My Sleep

Tue, 03/15/2016 - 07:54
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty,

I am a 49 year old woman who was raised very sexually repressed. I got married very late in life just 4 years ago. I have a very loving relationship with my husband who is almost 20 years my junior (and I don't care what other people think). I have had sexual partners prior to my marriage, but I can't say that I am sexually experienced. The dilemma that I am facing is that I have problems with arousal and orgasm. I don't think I have ever experienced an orgasm, only in my sleep.

I know you are a big proponent of masturbation, which due to my repressive upbringing I have never tried and when a girlfriend suggested it several years ago, I didn't think I liked the idea of touching myself, which now I think is sad that I thought that way.

When I Touch My Clitoris It Isn't Sensitive

Tue, 03/08/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello,

I am a 25 year old female, and my problem is I can't climax. Well I can but only with vibrators, never on my own with my fingers or while having intercourse. When my partner performs oral sex, it doesn't feel good, or bad i can just feel it.  The same thing is true with my clitoris, when I touch it it's not sensitive.

It does not feel good or bad, but I feel it. I started masterbating at about 13 years old with shower heads and that went on for a few years, that might be the reason why my clitoris isn't as responsive.

Is there anything I can do to fix that?

Dear C,

Since Antibiotics My Clit is Sore

Thu, 03/03/2016 - 07:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I've been with my partner now for about a year and a half. When we met it was complete passion through and through. But now I don't feel aroused by anything anymore. It takes me a long time to get worked up and I'm always in my head during sex it seems.

I've had about 6-8 UTI's within the last year and have been on antibiotics to treat them all. I became sick on a number of them but have now seemed to clear them all away. Unfortunately ever since all my antibiotics, my clitoris is sore whenever my partner attempts to touch it. This never used to be the case, I used to love when he did so.

How Do Kegels Improve Your Orgasms?

Tue, 03/01/2016 - 13:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was wondering if you could clear up some confusion I have regarding strengthening your PC muscles and orgasms. What I often read is that kegels will often "enhance" your orgasm or have them happen more frequently.(Yes )

I also have watched a video with you talking about them and how they first came about helping women achieve orgasm for the first time (while initially doing them for incontinence). I know how much you stress that most women who do have orgasm through intercourse are achieving it through clitoral stimulation.

I Want to Add Pleasure to My Life

Fri, 02/26/2016 - 08:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 32 year old woman who has had very little experience with learning how to reach orgasm during sex.

I never worried so much about it because my partners never really cared. But I am with a man now who wants to pleasure me and wants me to tell him what I like and how to make me feel good. I have realized that I don't know anything about this with dealing with myself since my focus has always been on my partner. I feel silly and embarrassed not even knowing where to begin. It frustrates him that he can't make me climax and I want to.

Simply Moving & Breathing Deeply Can Often Shake Off a Depression

Wed, 02/24/2016 - 12:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

The way I visualize an antidepressant working is similar to repeatedly thinking (feeling) I’m a worthless idiot and as that thought keeps repeating inside my brain; the drug breaks this repetitious process.

Similar to what most of us have experienced, first thing when I wake up, I start going over a jingle or a phrase that gets mentally repeated over and over and over again. The other morning it was “Three blind mice, three blind mice, See how they run, see how they run…!” Harmless enough, but a negative repetition that is consistently repeated again and again might become unbearable as it slowly wears down a person’s self esteem.