Betty Dodson's blog

How Do Kegels Improve Your Orgasms?

Tue, 03/01/2016 - 13:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I was wondering if you could clear up some confusion I have regarding strengthening your PC muscles and orgasms. What I often read is that kegels will often "enhance" your orgasm or have them happen more frequently.(Yes )

I also have watched a video with you talking about them and how they first came about helping women achieve orgasm for the first time (while initially doing them for incontinence). I know how much you stress that most women who do have orgasm through intercourse are achieving it through clitoral stimulation.

I Want to Add Pleasure to My Life

Fri, 02/26/2016 - 08:47
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 32 year old woman who has had very little experience with learning how to reach orgasm during sex.

I never worried so much about it because my partners never really cared. But I am with a man now who wants to pleasure me and wants me to tell him what I like and how to make me feel good. I have realized that I don't know anything about this with dealing with myself since my focus has always been on my partner. I feel silly and embarrassed not even knowing where to begin. It frustrates him that he can't make me climax and I want to.

Simply Moving & Breathing Deeply Can Often Shake Off a Depression

Wed, 02/24/2016 - 12:23
Submitted by Betty Dodson

The way I visualize an antidepressant working is similar to repeatedly thinking (feeling) I’m a worthless idiot and as that thought keeps repeating inside my brain; the drug breaks this repetitious process.

Similar to what most of us have experienced, first thing when I wake up, I start going over a jingle or a phrase that gets mentally repeated over and over and over again. The other morning it was “Three blind mice, three blind mice, See how they run, see how they run…!” Harmless enough, but a negative repetition that is consistently repeated again and again might become unbearable as it slowly wears down a person’s self esteem.

Lover Upset I Don't Care How Much He Ejaculates

Fri, 02/19/2016 - 10:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello Betty

My lover is very disappointed that I frankly don't care how much semen he ejaculates. I have tried to explain that it makes no difference to me. how much. I am more concerned about the intensity and satisfactions of his orgasms.

Surely the amount of come is based on how long since his last ejaculation not the quality of our fuck?

I'm 63 and can't remember this being an important issue to lovers in my youth. Is this yet another case of men being persuaded that women love 'come' via porn sites. Please, let me know how you all feel, perhaps I'm the one with a problem?


Dear C,

The More I Get Aroused The More I Tighten Up

Wed, 02/17/2016 - 08:59
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

Thank you so much for all you do for sexual education and female emancipation. I am so impressed with the body of work you have created, both in art and sexual health.

I'm a 30-year-old woman with primary vaginismus, and have attempted penetrative sex numerous times, with myself and with a partner, but after trying so many times, it's still a challenge. Of course, I have watched yours and Carlin's video on vaginismus, and have read all the literature I could find on the topic.

You are My Favorite Valentine

Mon, 02/15/2016 - 08:42
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Since we just passed our ten year mark working together as equal partners, I took a moment to reflect. Looking back, I realized I’d spent more time looking for a business partner than looking for Mr. Right. The man I married was Mr. Wrong so I couldn’t even trust my own judgment. After the divorce, I was dedicated to art, enjoying working alone in my studio. Standing in front of a canvas, I was the Queen who answered to no one.

Don't Feel Pleasure When I Touch My Clitoris

Mon, 02/08/2016 - 09:07
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty!

I just recently stumbled across your website and it's helped me a lot but I have a few questions about more specific things. I'm a 17 year old girl who has masturbated since 6th or 7th grade (12-13yrs old). When I first started I used my hand once or twice but then I read about using an electric toothbrush which worked really well, I used that method for a while until I learned about the shower head method which did wonders!

I Fantasize About a Woman Biting My Penis. Is This Normal?

Tue, 02/02/2016 - 12:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Dr. Betty.

I am a 29 year old man who is also virgin and I must say I like your website. And my question has to do with a sexual fantasy I have. In my fantasy a woman is performing oral sex on me and while she has my fully erect penis her mouth she bites it. What I am saying is I want a woman to bite my penis. Is there any advice you can give on this and is this a normal fantasy?

I think I would like it If a woman did bite my penis.

Dear A,

One of the best things about sexual fantasies is that they never need to be acted out unless we so desire. A lot of my fantasies remain just imaginary. Others are a way for me to test out things I might like to try while playing it safe. At some point you could ask a GF to apply pressure on your dick with her teeth VERY slowly.

How Do I Get Over Abortion Guilt & Ticking Biological Clock?

Thu, 01/28/2016 - 09:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I love to visit your website several times a week to laugh, listen and learn. Thank you and Carlin for your wonderful work.

Guilty After Girl-on-Girl Fantasy

Mon, 01/25/2016 - 10:05
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty..

I've never done this before....asking people for advice on this but I trust that you'll help...I'm 18 I'm a virgin...I masturbate often but not too much...when I masturbate I fantasize mostly about girls and rarely about guys...but I've never fallen for a girl or thought of girls in a romantic way ....I have had a few crushes on guys and fallen in love once...but I have a friend...she's bisexual and sometimes I want her to have lesbian sex with me and she wants to but after I masturbate to that fantasy I feel guilty...I don't know what's wrong with me ...

please help

Dear L,

Did the Pill Make Penetration Painful?

Thu, 01/21/2016 - 08:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr.Betty,

I am an 18 year old student and I have been experiencing pain during penetration for the past 7 months or so. I have not made any major lifestyle or medical changes. If anything, I have been healthier as I have cut down on sugar and exercise frequently.

I use lots of organic oil during sex so I dont think lubrication is an issue. I have been on the pill for 3 years due to horrendously painful period cramps, and I am almost positive that this is lowering my sex drive. I do masturbate regularly, but far less often than before the pill. And without lube I am completely dry and have little sensation.

I Can't Seem to Get Back into a State of Arousal After I Orgasm

Mon, 01/18/2016 - 08:41
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty,

I'd like to start with a long overdue thank you. I came to you for help here when I was a young adult that had never experienced an orgasm. I was very panicked and dramatic back then, having learnt it was "not a thing" I don't mastubate or orgasm. I felt broken. Your site was the only clear online help I recieved, and over two years of on and off trial and error- I managed to have an orgasm, and I continue to enjoy my sexuallity often today. Thank you so much. I'm glad you're here for people. Once again, I'd apreciate your advice.

Is My Vagina Too Small?

Wed, 01/13/2016 - 11:24
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I'm 22 and don't have a boyfriend. I've had sex with 7 people, each a few times (so I'm not very experienced). With the first, sex was great and felt good the whole time. He couldn't orgasm (that's a whole other issue) so we would have sex for hours on end. My first time with him didn't hurt at all, and neither did the times after. He was pretty average sized. After that, sex was sometimes painful, even with guys who were smaller than he was (I'm guessing that was an issue with lubrication though). However, sometimes I can tell that a man's penis will hit my cervix during sex. This happened very obviously when I was with a man who was larger than average - we couldn't even have sex properly.

If a Man has a Smaller Penis What Sex Positions Will Give His Woman Pleasure?

Tue, 01/12/2016 - 09:44
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I first want to say I really enjoy your website and find it very informative.

Ok, so I have question to ask concerning sexual positions and penis size. If a man has something of a smaller penis what sexual positions can be used to give his woman pleasure? Is woman on top really the way to go? And is there any advice you can give me about penis extenders?

Thank you for answering my questions.

Dear A,

The best info for you is to understand that most women do NOT have orgasms from penis/vagina intercourse. That's how we make babies! So you can stop worrying about having an average penis. The only bad news is that you will never be a porn star. Boo hoo! All Online porn shows women faking orgasms from fucking cause that's the number ONE fantasy for you guys.