Carlin Ross's blog

The Next Bodysex Workshops

Thu, 09/14/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Fall 2017 on these dates:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

The Range of Vulva Styles

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 13:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Classical Vulva
Gothic Vulva
Modern Vulva
Renaissance Vulva
Baroque Vulva
The Heart Vulva

Betty sketched these vulvas for the release of her international best seller Sex for One.

Back in the 70's, during the Genital Show & Tell ritual in her Bodysex workshops, Betty started identifying the "style" of each vulva using architectural styles as a reference.  Here they are: Classical, Gothic, Modern, Renaissance, Baroque, and the Heart.

Scarleteen and Planned Parenthood have reproduced these images for their educational content.  Knowing that there is a range of vulva types has healed millions of women and men. 

Dear Catcallers

Fri, 10/06/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Noa Jansma was sick and tired of being harassed and catcalled on her way to class so she decided to do what any self-respected millenial would do: start an instagram account.

@dearcatcallers is a series of selfies featuring Noa with her catcallers.  They all kind of have the same look on their faces.  It's a mix of "I'm being naughty" and "I'm a loser" with a dash of delinquency.  And most of them are old men oggling a 20 year old girl that could be there daughter but I guess that's the allure. 

When young men start posting selfies with their cougar harassers, we'll know that women too have the freedom to be aggressors.

An Interactive Map of Sheela Na Gigs

Fri, 09/29/2017 - 09:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Researchers have put together an interactive map of Sheela Na Gigs in Western Europe.  These graven images of older women pulling open their vulvas adorned churches and places of worship in Medieval times and harken back to ancient Egypt. 

It's not surprising that most of these reliefs were taken down and put in church basements like the image I've attached here (it's why so many of them have survived).  The prevailing thought was that Sheela Na Gigs were created as warnings against human lust.  I guess if you were a gay priest full frontal would seem like an admonition against sex. 

The Joy Radiates From This Image

Wed, 09/06/2017 - 08:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We are surrounded by so much pain.  From natural disasters (hurricanes and wild fires) to suffering caused by the hand of man (the fires in Oregon and the repeal of DACA). 

When I'm feeling down, I click on my desk top file folder "retreat pics" and gaze at this image.  I remember the love, joy, beauty and pleasure that can be achieved when we love ourselves. 

Thought I'd share it with you.

Here Comes the Pleasure Revolution

Fri, 08/25/2017 - 07:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty Dodson 1975

There are several media pieces coming out about the Bodysex Summit and Betty's life work. We didn't plan it but somehow interest in Bodysex, the certification program, Betty's 88th birthday and her upcoming episode on Broad City = some pretty amazing press.

This article ran yesterday on iNews and it's pretty amazing. Here are my favorite quotes (and they chose all the best pics):

“Betty started the dialogue by insisting that the clitoris is a woman’s primary sex organ,” says Ross. “Words like ‘masturbation’ and ‘clitoris’ trend with the release of her feminist classic Liberating Masturbation.”

Stretchmarks & Menstrual Rainbows

Mon, 08/21/2017 - 14:58
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I stumbled upon the instagram page of 21-year-old artist Cinta Tort Carto and fell in love.

She traces the stretchmarks on women's bodies with rainbow paint.  She glitters and rainbows menstrual markings on panties, diva cups and tampons.  It's so refreshing to view art that celebrates the power of our bodies while calling attention to misogynistic denigration and objectification:

Taylor Swift in Court = Perfection

Fri, 08/11/2017 - 07:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taylor Swift's sexual assault trial is underway and her testimony is beyond brilliant.

In 2013, David Mueller grabber Taylor's ass in the photo attached here. She was 23 and he was 51. Taylor and her parents decided not to go public because they didn't want the assault to define her career (and I agree with them. America loves women in jep). Instead, they gave notice to Mr. Mueller's employer and he was promptly fired.

Then, like any ass-grabbing loser would, he filed a $3M lawsuit against Taylor for getting him fired. Masterfully, she countersued for $1 (I love this woman). Now they're in court.

It was an Experience Beyond Words

Sun, 08/06/2017 - 19:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I was a complete mess heading into the Bodysex retreat. Chasing an active toddler while taking calls and organizing details was a huge challenge. I barely make it through the day as it is so the extra work hurt.

Bodysex is More Relevant with Each Passing Day

Fri, 07/14/2017 - 08:19
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Aside from watching our President manhandle the first lady of France while telling her "she's in good shape", we experienced two major events this week:

A one-trillion ton ice berg broke off of the Antarctic peninsula much sooner than any climate change scientist predicted AND

The permafrost at the North Pole melted flooding Norway's Doomsday seed archive. This is significant because the permafrost holds 2x the amount of carbon currently in our atmostphere. We've had three mass extinctions - one caused by an asteroid and two by the melting of the permafrost.

My Favorite Crotch Shot from National Bikini Day

Thu, 07/06/2017 - 16:31
Submitted by Carlin Ross

God damn it, I love this woman.  In honor of #nationalbikiniday, Amy Schumer published this crotch shot to her Instagram page. 

What's more feminist than body pride and full frontal vulva in this grab-her-by-the-pussy era we're living in?   And let's not forget Amy's Glamour awards speech where she proclaimed that she's "160 pounds and catches mad dick":

Pleasure is the Real Power

Wed, 06/28/2017 - 15:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Knowing that this past weekend's workshop would be our last shifted something in a very important way - both for us and the women in the circle. If I had to choose one word to describe the weekend, it would be reverance.

I felt a heaviness heading into the weekend, the anticipation of emotion and possible regret. And we'd decided to let the doc crew film our morning together as we set up the room and had breakfast so I had to be camera-ready and "on". Whenever we shoot, I'm always conscious that someone decades from now - maybe even a century - will stumble upon the clip. I want Betty's work to be properly represented. I want to get it all right. I want my words to have meaning.