Carlin Ross's blog

Remembering My Journey

Wed, 05/17/2017 - 15:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Thanksgiving 2001

As women, I think it's easy to forget our journey. Careers, motherhood and the constant barage of life duties and expectations keep you locked down in the present. Sometimes you need to spend an hour or two answering questions about your life story to remember.

We're finally moving forward with a documentary on Betty with a trusted producer. We don't have any creative control but feel confident that they understand who Betty is and the relevance of her work. It was totally inconvenient but I spent last Saturday, under the lights in full makeup, describing how I ended up on Betty Dodson's door step.

Sophie Emma Rose Normalized Breastfeeding Your Toddler

Thu, 05/11/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I remember the first time I viewed this video.  Grayson wasn't even a thought back then but it made a huge impression on me.  Sophie Joy and her son Shay seemed so happy and healthy.  There was something so real and touching about her and the relationship she had with her son. 

Last week Sophie Joy was killed in a motorcylce accident in Thailand.  Our hearts go out to her family.  Her loss is felt throughout the world.  As I was breastfeeding Grayson this morning (he's two years old now), I kept thinking of Sophie and Shay.

The French First Couple is Perfection

Sun, 05/07/2017 - 14:55
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Emmanuel Macron is the new President of France.  Not only is he the youngest president in history (39), but here he is with his 64 year-old wife, Brigette Macron, his former teacher whom he met when he was 15 years old. 

Thankfully, he defeated his conservative opponent whose platform including leaving the EU and limiting immigration though she never proposed builing a wall around Paris.

Can you imagine this happening in America?  We'd freak out if an older, richer woman entered the White House side-by-side with her much younger husband as President elect.  Politics is different in France. 

Betty & Jackie

Wed, 05/03/2017 - 08:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love this image of Betty sitting in front of her fire place - her altar - with Jackie above the mantle.  Jackie was part of her Masturbating Nudes exhibition that followed her Love Picture exhibition.  It was a total flop and Betty left the art world for feminism.

Jackie hangs in my bedroom.

Cellulite + Self-Managed Abortion = Hallmark Day for Women

Fri, 04/28/2017 - 06:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've been waiting for some celebrity with curves to release an ass shot with no photoshopping displaying her cellulite in all its glory and it's finally happened.  This week Kim K posted this image to her Instagram account.  100,000 people - I'm assuming men - stopped following her and there's been a media storm over it.

If you have curves, you have cellulite dimples.  Women aren't plastic dolls.  Flesh has movement.  The more flesh you have the more dimples and movement.  I used to spend hours looking at my ass in the mirror trying to smooth out every cellulite dimple with hours of cardio.  The only time I was dimple free was when I was on a week juice cleanse with daily colonics.  Having Grayson cured me of my cellulite obsession. 

It's Not About the Orgasm

Tue, 04/25/2017 - 15:07
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty and I used to see each other three times a week and every Friday, rain or shine, we did a video and posted it to youtube. When I had Grayson, I took 3 months off. Thereafter, we got together at least once a week to do our video. Now that we're in the "Terrible Twos" and Betty's apartment is anything but baby proofed we haven't been coming in at all.

It's a stage, and will be over before I know it, but I miss Betty and want to get back to our Friday video schedule. The emails/comments begging us to do more clips sting when I read them. Suffice it to say, I was really looking forward to this past weekend's workshop - spending time with Betty and 6 other women from Canada, Beijing, the UK, Texas and right here in New York.

One Of The Best Orgasms I've EVER Had Came From An 85-Year-Old Woman

Thu, 04/20/2017 - 07:33
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Jenny Block took a workshop about a year ago and has been writen several pieces about the experience. Just when I think she's written the best article about the workshops and Betty's brilliance she tops herself.

Here's a brief description of her orgasm during erotic recess "with" Betty's instruction (her full article is here):

"Virgin Priestess"

Tue, 04/18/2017 - 07:41
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Betty did a series of market drawings in 2004 that she called her "granny porn".  This is one of my favorite images. 

Our Bodysex Workshop Manual on Amazon

Sat, 04/15/2017 - 12:23
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We wrote this book for our certification program. Our future Bodysex leaders wanted a manual, a step-by-step process with pictures, detailing how to run a workshop from beginning to end.

I'm not sure how I found the time to write this book but somehow it all came together with ease. The stars aligned because womankind demanded it.

When Betty saw the proof copy of this book, she remarked, "it's such a sweet book. This will be our Bodysex bible".

Here it is on Amazon. Our hope is that Bodysex spreads across the globe so that future generations of women can learn how to love themselves and their bodies.

Only the Inkling of an Orgy

Tue, 04/11/2017 - 07:57
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is one of Betty's earlier paintings. 

I love her group nudes because you can see something brewing in her work - her nudes are restless looking for more.  In only a few years, Betty would join America's Sexual Revolution, her nudes would start fornicating, and she'd became a feminist icon.

Ovaries & Whimsy

Fri, 03/31/2017 - 07:39
Submitted by Carlin Ross

One of our Bodysex women - an Israeli artist - sent me this image and I love it.  The whimsy, the eroticism, the beauty speak to me. 

This is how I see womankind.

The Power of Visibility

Tue, 03/21/2017 - 06:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Evan Rachel Wood's acceptance speech is so powerful because she describes what it feels like to grow up "bisexual" without a clear understanding of your orientation.  This is my favorite line, "I see you.  You see me.  We aren't so different.  Through connection the healing begins". 

I feel the same way about Bodysex.  When we connect...when we are seen and we see each other we are healed.

If Women Were Assigned Power...

Thu, 03/16/2017 - 08:45
Submitted by Carlin Ross

These are my two favorite paintings from artist Felice House. 

After moving from the Northeast to Austin, she fell if love with the concept of the "West" and thought about the roles women were relegated to, inspiring her to replace the cowboys in iconic (male-dominated) Western art with women. 

Her work says so much about power dynamics and gender roles.  Her paintings are 1.25 life-sized so the women are larger than the viewer, "when you see them in person, people are surprised by the scale. People aren't used to women towering over them."

Just breathtaking.

Best Arrest Photo from Day Without A Woman

Thu, 03/09/2017 - 08:33
Submitted by Carlin Ross

A big thank you to Tamika Mallory, Linda Sarsour, Carmen Perez and Bob Bland - the four main organizers of the Women's March - who were arrested yesterday protesting outside Trump Tower in nyc for A Day Without A Woman (9 other protestors were also arrested).

This is the best arrest photo ever. Wish I could have been there but motherhood and raising a feminist son is my priority right now. I keep looking for numbers on yesterday's global strike *fingerscrossed*.

Feminism has finally gone mainstream.

Jacqueline Secor's Vulva Art

Sun, 02/26/2017 - 14:37
Submitted by Carlin Ross

It seems like vulva art is popping up everywhere and I'm loving Jacqueline Secor's work.  Each image captures a "vulva style" and almost all have dangling inner lips.

She began painting vulvas to deal with some body dysmorphia issues she was having living in Utah where there's only one definition of beauty.  Looking forward to viewing more of her work.