Carlin Ross's blog

Love Amy Schumer's Rolls

Tue, 12/01/2015 - 08:17
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Amy Schumer posted this behind-the-scenes pic from her Pirelli shoot with Annie Leibovitz.  That's right the Pirelli calendar that usually features the photoshopped bodies of beauty's 1%.  Change is afoot, ladies.

I have to say that I love her stomach rolls.  They remind me of a classical painting - I want to reach out and run my hands over her supple flesh.  Thank you, Amy, for not elongating your torso and twisting to mimic tautness.  And thank you, Pirelli, for diversifying and including a range of beautiful bodies. 

As Amy posted, "Beautiful, gross, strong, thin, fat, pretty, ugly, sexy, disgusting, flawless, woman".

Barbie Put a Boy in an Ad & People Lost It

Tue, 11/24/2015 - 11:43
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Moschino has collaborated with Barbie to put out a branded "Moschino" doll.  They featured a little boy with two little girls in their ad and people lost their shit. 

God forbid a boy plays with a doll his dick might fall off, or better yet he may end up respecting women.  This is so ridiculous but, as a new parent, I already feel the pressure to raise a masculine boy.  Fear, hate those are easy to instill.  Love, open-mindedness are a bit harder. 

Here's the commercial:

The Word that Came to Mind was Friendship

Tue, 11/17/2015 - 16:51
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Each workshop has it's own distinct feeling...part of it is the women who find themselves at Betty's door and the other part is the energy we bring to the group as facilitators. The word that kept coming to mind during this past weekend's workshop was friendship.

The women always bond during Day 1 but this group was special. The connection was instantaneous. It's always rewarding to see women bond through honesty, sharing how they feel about their body and their orgasm. We all suffer the same wounds, some just heal faster than others. Religious repression and misogyny be damned...somehow we all find our way back to ourselves.

Consent It's Simple as Tea

Fri, 11/13/2015 - 07:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, Lawrence Lanoff, for including this video in your FB newsfeed.

Consent is simple.  Somehow and for some reason we make it seem difficult.  But when you break it down - like how we go about making someone a cup of tea - it all falls away and things are so straightforward. 

The real reason consent is so hard to understand in our culture is because women aren't seen as independent or equal.  If women aren't paid dollar for dollar with men, then why would you need their consent for sex?  And if they can't choose when to become mothers then why would they choose when to have a penis inside their vagina? 

It really is a slippery slope.  Consent is about equality. I love this video.

Looking Forward to Bodysex

Wed, 11/11/2015 - 11:13
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We have a workshop coming up this weekend and I'm so looking forward to it.  You'd think that leaving Grayson home with Daddy and heading into Betty's at 10am on a Saturday morning would get old, or at least get routine.  But that's not how Bodysex works.

Every workshop I learn something about myself - I remove another layer of shame and self-doubt.  Even when you feel balanced and sex positive there's always a bit of something you can let go of because life happens.  We move through events that weigh us down and bodysex brings me back to me. 

Hedy Lamarr Would be 101 Today

Mon, 11/09/2015 - 09:47
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Even Google is celebrating Hedy Lamarr's 101st birthday with an animated short of her achievements.

She was an actress who starred in Ecstasy, a film that included the firt female orgasm (during oral sex)

And she developed and patented broad spectrum technology which is the basis of all cellular and mobile applications that we enjoy today.

The US military patted her on the head when she offered them her technology as a means of thwarting German attacks on US submarines (which would have saved countless lives during WWII) and asked her to use her celebrity to sell war bonds.

Of course, she was ahead of her time and died penniless. She's one of the greats and on the list of women I'd like to go back in time and have a drink with...

Zendaya Gets Photoshopped Layout Pulled

Tue, 11/03/2015 - 07:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I've been saying this forever - if celebrity women refused to sign off on photoshopped images of themselves we could put the whole negative body image nightmare to rest for young women.

Finally, someone had the clit to take on the fashion mags.  Actress and singer Zendaya posted this image of her "retouched" body and negotiated with Modeliste magazine to pull the issue and re-release it with her natural images.  She looks so much more attractive before they slimmed out her figure.  Her real image - the image to the right - is far superior.

I'm hoping this creates a ripple effect and other celebs follow suit.  We could all learn a great deal from this 19 year old. 

Wonder Woman Breastfeeding is Perfection

Sun, 11/01/2015 - 06:41
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, Alyssa Milano, for publishing this picture of breastfeeding in your Wonder Woman costume to #normalizebreastfeeding.

I can't think of a greater super power than nourishing new life.  If only we placed the same value on people who nurture as we do on people who dominate to succeed.

<3 Celebrity Armpit Hair on the Red Carpet

Wed, 10/28/2015 - 07:24
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I love a woman with unshaken armpits...especially when it's on the red carpet.  Bravo.

We need an army of unshaken women having independent orgasms demanding equal pay and it seems like it's all starting.

The Experience is Rebirth

Tue, 10/27/2015 - 10:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We held our second certification workshop this weekend with 8 women training to run their own Bodysex groups across the country. We'll be adding Kansas, Upstate New York, Virginia, California, and Maine to our "territories". What excites us the most is the quality of women who will be carrying Betty's work forward. Their stories overlap yet each is unique and will put their own stamp on Bodysex.

Handling Your Mastectomy with Humor

Tue, 10/20/2015 - 07:36
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Aniela McGuinness is a 32-year-old actress who was diagnosed with breast cancer. She decided to have a preventative mastectomy AND to document her experience with a little flair, and a little humor.

She starts with Rosie the Riveter pre-mastectomy...becomes the Bride of Frankenstein post-mastectomy and then a Fembot post-chemo when she went bald.

I love her spirit and that she held her head high and laughed at herself. If only we all could handle our ever changing bodies with the same courage and acceptance. This woman is brilliant.

Historic Objectification

Mon, 10/19/2015 - 05:52
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This is a photo of an ankle contest.  Maybe the woman's faces would confuse the judges but looking at this image, it's so fucking ridiculous that I can't believe it's real.

And we wonder why pundits commented on Hillary's "cankles".  I would imagine that thicker ankles would be stronger and help you do useful things like run or lift things but why would a woman's body need to be anything but pleasing to the male gaze.

Government Minus Men

Wed, 10/14/2015 - 08:29
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, Elle UK, for photoshopping the men out of these pictures of parliament and the G8 to show how women are barely represented in government.

A picture is worth a thousand words.  Women hold roughly 14% of the seats in Congress (you need 42% to have an influence).  And it's no better over in the UK.  I have to admit that the image of Merkel kind of gets me hot.  She's such a bad ass.  

Change is coming. 

Betty Draws the Internal Clitoris in Spanish

Mon, 10/12/2015 - 09:41
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Thank you, Alejandra Pino, for adding spanish subtitles to our video clip of Betty drawing the internal clitoris. Everything we do here at D&R is copyleft and Creative Commons.

We want people to take our work, translate it, and take it mass:

Things My Dick Does

Fri, 10/09/2015 - 07:11
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Things My Dick Does is officially my new favorite tumblr blog. His stated intention is wonderful:

I've always wondered what my dick does in the times he is up before I am. He must get so bored waiting for me to wake up. Happens EVERY day. Poor little guy :\ Feel free to say hello to the little guy via inbox message. love with the condom pics.