Lifestyle

The Next Bodysex Workshops

Thu, 09/14/2017 - 07:01
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Taking a bodysex workshop is transformative.  We focus on overcoming negative body image and pleasure anxiety. 

Yes, they're done in the nude but it's not sexual.  Betty developed these workshops using the consciousness raising model of second wave feminism where women got together and shared their experience first person. You can read about past workshops to better understand the experience here (scroll down to read blog posts written by Carlin and our Bodysex leaders).

Whatever your race, orientation, upbringing, or country of origin, we have wounds to heal. All are welcome.

The next workshops will be held Fall 2017 on these dates:

Bodysex Certification

Thu, 11/17/2016 - 15:00
Submitted by Carlin Ross

If you have any questions or would like to start the certification process, send an email to admin@dodsonandross.com

Mission:

Our goal is to certify women to hold their own Bodysex workshops so that the Betty Dodson method of self-love and sisterhood continues and expands to every country around the world.

When Betty and I first got together, we had this vision of a world map with red lights being illuminated every time someone clicked on D&R. Now we feel that those red lights represent women certified in the Betty Dodson method as each woman holds her own Bodysex workshops.

Our Latest Ebook & Vulva Anatomy

Wed, 02/13/2013 - 17:22
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I'm really focused on ebooks right now because it's the easiest way for us to get our information out globally and keep the lights on.  Betty's memoir My Romantic Love Wars is out as an ebook and we're releasing several how-to sex ebooks including my first writing venture

Menopause & Hormone Replacement: One Sexologist’s Personal Experience

Sat, 02/12/2011 - 17:20
Submitted by Betty Dodson

To my knowledge, there is no one-size-fits-all solution for a woman to remain vaginally active long past menopause without some kind of Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). It's unfortunate, but each of us must find our own path through trial and error. First off, menopause varies greatly. What many don't know is that more than half of all women in the USA have little to no uncomfortable symptoms. After all, it's a natural transition we all experience. Others suffer with hot flashes, night sweats, sleeplessness, memory loss, etc., symptoms that will eventually pass. However, medical professionals along with our overzealous pharmaceutical companies have turned menopause into a deficiency that needs to be treated.

Each Bodysex Circle is Different

Wed, 10/18/2017 - 07:46
Submitted by Irina

Carlin told me each Bodysex circle is different, and we get to see this especially when we lead. The women are different, we are different, and somehow the right combination of women show up and it all comes perfectly together. I for sure was feeling differently. Surprisingly, I was more nervous leading up to this second circle I led, than the first one. I didn’t really know any of the women and my monkey brain was fretting, ‘are they even going to show up?’. They all did, and I relaxed a bit, even though I was prepared to lead with however many women would show at my door.

I was so excited and so ready for this workshop, my energy was high, and still the two days knocked me out. I slept a full 9 hours night after quite a few weeks of not getting enough sleep, and I was grateful.

I Believe Sex is How People are Controlled Which Puts it at the Heart of Politics

Thu, 10/12/2017 - 08:34
Submitted by Betty Dodson
Betty self-portrait

One of the most challenging aspects of my life has been going public with what I believe to be true based on observation, experience and information from sources I trust. I’m not sure when living out loud became my passion. Perhaps the biggest influence was my mother who always said, “Betty Anne, never hesitate to speak your mind.” She was an example of doing just that. Often I’d be embarrassed when she’d say the unspeakable, like the time she told our overly religious neighbor Mrs. Wright the Bible was just a bunch of stories written by a lot of different men.

Dear Catcallers

Fri, 10/06/2017 - 07:59
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Noa Jansma was sick and tired of being harassed and catcalled on her way to class so she decided to do what any self-respected millenial would do: start an instagram account.

@dearcatcallers is a series of selfies featuring Noa with her catcallers.  They all kind of have the same look on their faces.  It's a mix of "I'm being naughty" and "I'm a loser" with a dash of delinquency.  And most of them are old men oggling a 20 year old girl that could be there daughter but I guess that's the allure. 

When young men start posting selfies with their cougar harassers, we'll know that women too have the freedom to be aggressors.

Weaving A Web Of Sisterhood

Mon, 10/02/2017 - 09:13
Submitted by Natasha

The night before last weekend’s Bodysex retreat began, I laid down on the rug in the centre of the circle — inhaling the smells of body oil and beeswax — and felt the familiar sensation of being home. If I don’t feel safe to be myself in a circle of women, where in the world would I feel safe?

An Interactive Map of Sheela Na Gigs

Fri, 09/29/2017 - 09:54
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Researchers have put together an interactive map of Sheela Na Gigs in Western Europe.  These graven images of older women pulling open their vulvas adorned churches and places of worship in Medieval times and harken back to ancient Egypt. 

It's not surprising that most of these reliefs were taken down and put in church basements like the image I've attached here (it's why so many of them have survived).  The prevailing thought was that Sheela Na Gigs were created as warnings against human lust.  I guess if you were a gay priest full frontal would seem like an admonition against sex. 

Hello Sexy

Fri, 09/15/2017 - 06:58
Submitted by Angela Thurston

Hello Sexy,

I trust that my letter finds you safe, and lusciously warm and comfy. I do hope that you may drink in my words with no distractions.

Today began with my usual morning epsom salt soak. I am always taken aback at the serenity I experience as my morning body makes connection with the hot fragrant water. This morning I had the luxury of an extended period in the tub. Actually to the point of dizziness from the intensity of the heat.

I treasure the exquisite state in which I begin my days. My morning ritual is the perfect preparation to explore the delectable terrain of my body—before I engage with the world.

The First Bodysex Circle in Seattle

Tue, 09/12/2017 - 06:54
Submitted by Irina

Seattle Bodysex Workshop had a difficult birth. After three other set dates that didn’t happen, and seven months later, Seattle finally received its first Bodysex Workshop.

Like everything else in life, it did happen just at the right moment. I had to grow and become the person who could lead such a powerful workshop. And growth takes time, patience, grit, and just a little bit of luck.

The luck piece was the epic event, Bodysex Summit, held at a buddhist retreat center in New York, to celebrate Betty Dodson’s life and work at an ‘early’ 90th birthday, just two weeks before the Seattle Workshop. The waves of encouragement, enthusiasm, sisterhood and empowerment swept me up and fueled me with the right confidence, belief and determination to make it happen.

The Joy Radiates From This Image

Wed, 09/06/2017 - 08:08
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We are surrounded by so much pain.  From natural disasters (hurricanes and wild fires) to suffering caused by the hand of man (the fires in Oregon and the repeal of DACA). 

When I'm feeling down, I click on my desk top file folder "retreat pics" and gaze at this image.  I remember the love, joy, beauty and pleasure that can be achieved when we love ourselves. 

Thought I'd share it with you.

Cannabis Plants & My Dick Dialogue

Sun, 09/03/2017 - 07:11
Submitted by bila kolbe

While out on the deck under enjoyable circumstances as narrated below, I got to wondering- of what interest or possible benefit might this blog have for the greater D & R society. I believe during these times of sinister political melees and a plunging loss of faith in the individual occupying the presidential throne, we need to spread messages and actions of love and understanding, and most importantly- love of self. Love, with its infinite manifestations, prevails as the most potent remedy for whatever physical, mental, and spiritual maladies that may beset us.

Our Scars Are Illustrations Of The Stories Of Our Lives

Fri, 09/01/2017 - 06:43
Submitted by Natasha

“A hospital chaplain says that the dying have a lot to teach us on how to live our lives better while we still can. One of the most frequent yet surprising regrets she’s found, especially from female patients, is the fact that they hated their bodies for so many years. Only now, when that body is truly failing, do they realize they should have celebrated it.”


A couple of weeks ago, while recovering from surgery to remove a tumor on my thyroid, I spent the night and day on the South Saskatchewan river. I’d been told that I should avoid the sun to lessen the severity of my scar, but I knew that there was nothing that could be more healing for me than the sun on my body, sand in my hair and the river under me.

Here Comes the Pleasure Revolution

Fri, 08/25/2017 - 07:21
Submitted by Carlin Ross
Betty Dodson 1975

There are several media pieces coming out about the Bodysex Summit and Betty's life work. We didn't plan it but somehow interest in Bodysex, the certification program, Betty's 88th birthday and her upcoming episode on Broad City = some pretty amazing press.

This article ran yesterday on iNews and it's pretty amazing. Here are my favorite quotes (and they chose all the best pics):

“Betty started the dialogue by insisting that the clitoris is a woman’s primary sex organ,” says Ross. “Words like ‘masturbation’ and ‘clitoris’ trend with the release of her feminist classic Liberating Masturbation.”