The circle runs itself but as the leader you set the tone.  In this podcast, we talk about the types of women who can cause problems: the reluctant participant, the overtalker, the comforting mother, the rejected girl crush, the cry baby and the professional victim.  In rare circumstances, women can be asked to leave the room.  Most often, simply moving on does the trick.  Be honest, direct and firm. 

Betty keeps everything.  When I found the transcript from NOW's first and only sexuality conference in 1973, I knew we had to read it on camera because Betty's talk was beyond amazing.  An archivist found that clip and forwarded this audio taping of the speech.  The cheers...Betty's voice...it sends chills down my spine. 


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Betty's writing an essay "How to Best Use a Vibrator" - it's not intuitive.  We decided to pour a "Dodson" and chat about it.  

We finally had a minute to sit down and talk about the bodysex documentary.  All the women experienced a transformation. The nudity...the group orgasm were a big healing for the cast and the crew.  Women must claim their sexual power.

Barbara calls herself an orgasm expansionist - we sat down to talk about thinking off (remember that Strange Sex episode) - and how you can have energy and breath orgasms. 

There are an infinite number of erotic possibilities.  It's about breathing, squeezing your pc muscles, rocking your pelvis, using your imagination and making sound.


Joan Price - author of Naked at Our Age - stopped by and we turned on the microphones.  Betty wrote the forward and we can't say enough wonderful things about this book. 

Sex changes as you age but sex is life long (what Joan calls "ageless sexuality").  And, as women, we can look forward to "menopausal zest".  Joan met the love of her life when she was 57....a time when you can break all the rules and discover your sexual fluidity. 

Naked at Our Age
Joan's blog

Joan is a gem.

There's nothing abnormal about childbirth.  It's like an orgasm - your body knows what to do.  Jessica came by and we talked about birthing tubs and orgasmic birth...why you shouldn't cut the umbilical cord night away, why nursing is so important, and why you should avoid epidurals.


Jessica's website

Ina Mae Gaskin

We needed to "flesh" out the group orgasm ritual so we broke out the microphones.  It's really all about social bonding between women.  Getting past modesty and genital shame - being comfortable in our own skin "titty to titty, pussy to pussy".  Ultimately, it's feminism.

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Nancy Qualls- Corbet The Sacred Prostitute (great resource on sacred sexuality)

Betty is the mother of masturbation - Deborah Sundahl is the mother of female ejaculation.  Betty and Deborah go way back to the feminist movement.  Deborah described her first experience ejaculating - and we talked about her latest area of interest: chronic pelvic floor tension.  It's my favorite podcast to date.

Deborah Sundahl Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot
Tammi Kent The Wild Feminine

Youtube took down one of our videos and we had to vent, cracked ourselves up, and vented some more.  We're not porn stars...we're not prostitutes...we're not traditional women.  So it looks like we're going to have to do things "tits to the wall". 

And what could be better than "lesbian twat juice?" That statement came from an anonymous viewer on You Tube that I'd call a chicken shit for remaining anonymous. At least we have the guts to say who we are!!!!

Sarah Patterson from babeland and mysexprofessor.com came by and we talked about the top sex questions we get on the site: am I normal, am I having an orgasm and how can I orgasm during partner sex.   We also talked about our favorite lubes, the porn pop off and how Betty found her g-spot.

It was a big week - I came out about my sexual past with Marie Claire and posed for a evocative photoshoot.  Betty's response, "now I know how my mother felt".  

It was my sexual "coming out".  I'm so glad I did it.

We know how to have sex for procreation but we don't know how to have sex for pleasure.  Betty bottom lined S&M, we came up with the idea of sex badges & we planned out our sexual practice documentary. 

Midori was in town and we had to get an interview with this amazing woman.  She's best known for her expertise in Japanese rope bondage but that's just the beginning. Dan Savage referred to Midori as a superstar/supernova. 

We talked about our feminist history and her new workshops.  We're in love and nearly had a threesome.


Sheila Shea is the woman who started the bodysex groups with Betty.  She was in town and I had to turn on the microphones.  From group sex to how they started the genital show & tell ritual, we hit it all.  And we all agreed: everyone liked Hustler's split beaver the best. 

Betty and I had the pleasure of interviewing Carol Downer - the mother of the abortion movement.  She was jailed...she was censored but she never stopped teaching women how to take control of their own bodies.  From contraception to menstrual extraction, she did it all. This is one of my favorite podcasts :)

A Book of Women's Choices by Carol Downer & Rebecca Chalker

Betty has watched 1000s of women orgasm in her Bodysex groups and her private sessions.  I asked Betty to break down her process step-by-step.  Her words of wisdom: keep going.  Women have an infinite capacity for pleasure.

Betty and I decided to sit down and talk about our favorite parts of Betty Dodson: My Sexual Revolution - our favorite parts of Betty's life.  Her memoir really is a blue print for how to live your life as an independent woman.  It's about how Betty decided what was right for her....and how you can do the same. 

Women had their own sexual revolution in the 60s that the feminists never acknowledged.  It was about clits, vibrators, and choosing how to have your own orgasm.  Becky Chalker, author of the Clitoral Truth, came by and we talked about all the lurid details.


The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm

Ruby Fruit in the Jungle

The Hite Report

Rae Larson came by and I had to turn on the microphones.  She founded SISTER (Seattle Institute for Sexual Therapy, Education & Research) and after treating victims of sexual abuse decided to find out what makes a sex offender.  She discovered that no person has one exclusive sexual pattern and that she could treat sex offenders by helping them discover a healthy sexual pattern. 

Then the conversation turned to ephebephilia, women's cyclic sexual interest, reflex ovulation, and embracing sexual freedom.