How To Use the Barbell

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Sun, 07/20/2008 - 11:26
Submitted by Betty Dodson

The Barbell by Betty Dodson
A Vaginal Exerciser Designed by a Woman Sexologist

Betty Dodson PhD has proven though working with thousands of women that a strong pelvic floor muscle enhances orgasm with oneself and during partner sex. The same muscle also insures bladder control, maintains vaginal health, and contributes to a person's overall health, and contributes to a person’s overall wellbeing.

19 Years Old - Will Kegels Better My Sex Life?

Sat, 06/10/2017 - 07:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Dr. Betty,

I am a 19 year old interested in doing kegels to better my sex life with myself and a partner in the future.

I'd love to get strong results, and getting a kegel exerciser seems the way to go, except after my research there are several sights and people claiming that it is actually a bad way to go -both unnecessary and not as healthy as doing kegels without it.

What do you say to this?

Dear S,

What I say is "to each her own." Chances are you do not need to get your PC muscles stronger. Actually Kegels were designed for women who had given childbirth and needed to restore the muscles. I simply find using the pelvic floor muscles during penetration while including a vibrator on my clitoris enhances my orgasm.

The Muscles of the Clitoris

Mon, 03/26/2012 - 09:02
Submitted by Carlin Ross

On the topic of "coregasms", here is an illustration from A New View of A Woman's Body showing the muscles of the clitoris.  These are the muscles you feel when you start/stop the flow of urine or clench your anus. 

Being orgasmic is a function of using these muscles to pump blood to your genitals (male or female).

My Thoughts on the "Coregasm"

Sun, 03/25/2012 - 16:58
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Here we go again with academics love of letters to signify the latest in sexology: The results of this recent online survey of only 124 women who reported experiencing exercise-induced orgasms (EIO) and 246 women who experienced exercise-induced sexual pleasure (EISP). Sometimes I worry that we have forgotten the (CIO) clitoral induced orgasms.

Boyfriend Has Small Penis & Can't Orgasm

Betty Dodson's picture
Thu, 12/04/2008 - 16:09
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Help me please, Doctor Betty!

My new partner, whom I adore, struggles for his orgasm. I was married to a man with a larger cock (8inches, filled me, hurt sometimes) and my new man has a much smaller one. I feel guilty all the time and am frantically doing pelvic floor exercises! I frequently suggest anal sex, assuming he needs something a little 'tighter'. My gorgeous man is very sexually experienced and I am now expressing my sexuality and enjoying threesomes with him and he loves to watch me with other women, but now I can't relax and enjoy our threesome sex as I'm she tighter than me? Does he enjoy her more than me? Can you give me some reassurance about my vagina and my ability to please my man? I've never had this problem before.

Help with Kegels!

Betty Dodson's picture
Sun, 10/19/2008 - 11:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I am trying to tighten my PC for my pleasure and his pleasure, but come away FRUSTRATED!! I can stop the flow of urine, but wonder if I am really isolating the right muscles. It seems my anus is stronger than my vagina. When I lie on my back and insert a finger to do kegels it feels like my muscles tighten from the bottom to top instead of from side to side...Is that normal?! Plz help!!

Genital Fitness

Sat, 10/18/2008 - 18:13
Submitted by Carlin Ross

#2 in our video podcast series.  From kegels to penis curls, Dodson and Ross cover everything you need to know about your pc muscle. Start squeezing! 

HELP! 2 Virgins About to Have First Time Sex

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Wed, 08/13/2008 - 14:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson


I'm a young woman from Romania and I'm currently reading Orgasms for Two and I just HAD to stop to write you an email. While I don't agree with some of the radical ideas on marriage and love in your book (but then I'm only 25) I found what I read so far to be ...liberating. I know your inbox is probably flooded with emails so I'll keep this quick but still hope for an answer.