safe sex

What is Safe Sex?

Tue, 08/11/2015 - 09:29
Submitted by Anonymous

Let’s cut through all the usual confusing debate about PrEP and condoms and state the facts & what your options are.

What is safe sex? since you only need one exposure to get HIV whatever’s protecting you has to be in place all the time before anything happens. With something as high maintenance & disrupting as HIV one once is too many.

The key? be “Ready and Waiting” Even if you go on for hours, are wild and push the envelope, the defense must hold.

What’s safe?

The Scroguard For Super Safe Sex and New Condom Recommendations

Mon, 01/12/2015 - 08:18
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

The closest thing to a body condom has arrived! It's called the Scroguard. It's a condom for the scrotum and the entire penis.

The problem with condoms is they don't protect against HPV or herpes infection. Both STD's are transmitted from skin-to-skin contact and while a condom can protect a woman's cervix from an unknowingly infected man's penis, the base of the penis and the surrounding skin is not covered. This comes into contact with her vulva during intercourse where the penis is of a size where it can be fully inserted.

I Love Clever Safe Sex Ads

Sat, 10/20/2012 - 12:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross

This safe sex ad is sexy - I love sexy sex ed.  And it's clever - I love clever sex ed.

Thank you, Finland, for running these ads during prime time television:

Can You Get Pregnant From Pre-Cum?

Wed, 04/25/2012 - 14:33
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hi Betty,

I have been having sex with a male partner for a month or so. I have some questions about safer sex practices. I have found that the best way for me to orgasm is when he rubs the tip of his penis around my vulva and slips it occasionally just inside my vagina while I stimulate my clitoris with a vibrator or my hand.

We are not exclusive, but neither of us are having sex with anyone else right now and both of us are sure we don't have any STIs. However, I am not on the pill and it is really hard for me to orgasm when he is wearing a condom. Even with a lot of lube the condom irritates my vulva and it just doesn't feel as good as when I can feel his skin. I am unsure what the risks of pregnancy are in this case.

Boys Who Masturbate More Likely to Practice Safe Sex

Tue, 09/06/2011 - 16:30
Submitted by Carlin Ross

We know that the more young boys masturbate the healthier their prostate but that's just the beginning. Young boys who masturbate - who are sexually self-aware - are more likely to wear a condom.

A new study (supported by Trojan condom maker Church & Dwight Co) found that 86 percent of boys who said they'd worn a condom last time they had sex also reported masturbating over the past year, compared to only 44 percent of boys who didn't masturbate.

The New Gonorrhea Superbug

Thu, 07/14/2011 - 08:22
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

The last time I was getting my STD testing done, I asked the doctor if she'd heard recently of drug-resistent forms of gonorrhea or chlamydia. I'd already heard about drug-resistent syphillis beginning to appear. The doctor said she hadn't.

Well, this article tells all. They found the strain in Japan and it's only a matter of time until it's more widespread. Even more reason for my super safe sex style of sex.

It's Less Likely Two People will Share Masturbation Without Making a Conscious Choice to Do So

Fri, 07/01/2011 - 17:19
Submitted by Anonymous

I advocate choice in sexual matters. My promotion of shared masturbation is in alignment with the choice to abstain from, or have an alternative to, potentially pregnancy-creating sex. The logical thing for an “abstinence education” program to advocate would indeed be masturbation, sharing masturbation, shared fantasy, and so on.

However, these experiences promote sexuality, sexual consciousness and erotic sharing while avoiding the problems of unwanted pregnancy and the anxiety around STIs. They open up an erotic common ground that goes beyond gender politics.

Eric Amaranth's Safe, Safer, and Super-Safe Sex Methods

Wed, 03/16/2011 - 07:56
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

I have been interested in hot safe sex since the beginning of my sex life. I've always cared deeply for the women I'm with's peace of mind during and after having sex with me as much as my own.

Twice I've sealed the erotic deal because I was ready with condoms, lube, and an honest attitude. They could feel that I was the real thing, telling the truth, and not one of those jackasses who pull off the condom in the middle of it or right before they come in her.

Here are my methods for safe, safer, and super-safe sex:

When Do You Exchange STI Lab Test Results?

Wed, 02/23/2011 - 11:43
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

From a reader: "Do you have to do that with every one night stand? It's more or less instilled in me because that's what happens when you learn something for the first time. It's still not clear to me (asked around, read things) what the reasons behind that request were, and if it is "standard" proceedure or common sense. To my knowledge, this subject doesn't come up with the blog contributors on D&R when they are having sex. You recently mentioned it in your video podcast as a side remark."

Our Condom Basics Video Has More Than Meets The Eye

Sat, 11/07/2009 - 12:39
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

I just remembered that our humbly-titled original erotic sex education video, Condom Basics, has more hotness in it than just putting a condom on a penis. It also has a healthy portion of vaginal intercourse with clitoral stimulation provided by the man, and, great footage of his orgasm inside our woman-model.  Click here for the video!

Aroused Breasts, The New Videos, Threesome Ideas, and Condom and Sex Technique Fine Tuning

Thu, 11/05/2009 - 11:49
Submitted by Eric Amaranth

Here's the link to our new streaming videos page that at the moment, has two brand new Dodson and Ross short erotic sex ed videos. One is called Condom Basics, showing how to put on a condom, tips for better condom use, and some smoldering footage of vaginal sex with clitoral stimulation done by the man. (see also my blog post on my Advanced Condom Tips) The other video highlights the basics of anal sex for women, but can be applied to men as well. When I watched this one especially, it showed me in third person how hot sex skills not only feel, but look.

We also have, in a series of six segments, Betty's popular female masturbation erotic sex ed video, Orgasmic Women. All the clips very affordably priced too. It's learning that's hot.

HIV Vaccine Reduces Infection Rate by 31.2%

Thu, 09/24/2009 - 08:20
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Can you imagine what would happen if they had a vaccine that could prevent the transmission of HIV?  There would be a sexual revolution like we've never seen.  We're almost there.

Researchers in Thailand combined 2 earlier experimental HIV vaccines and gave it to 16,000 people.  They found that the chances of catching HIV were 31.2% less for those who had taken the vaccine.  YAY!

A global vaccine is still a ways off but this is exciting news.  Do you think we can get Betty to start throwing group sex parties again?

Hitler’s Lookin’ Hot in New Aids Campaign

Tue, 09/15/2009 - 09:32
Submitted by Anonymous

This week, Germany is releasing a new ad that may sway viewers to protecting themselves when they engage in highly "risky" sexual activity. The advertisement in question features a man and a woman having very hot sex in a bedroom. As they reach an orgasm, the man is revealed to be Adolf Hitler. At the end of the commercial, the slogan, "AIDS is a mass murderer" appears onscreen.

I don't know about you; but, AIDS was far from my mind. In fact, I was pretty aroused by watching Hitler bump and grind with his sweaty, lustful lover (Who looks Jewish, by the way).

58, Back Dating, and Need Safe Sex Tips

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Wed, 06/10/2009 - 10:06
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Dear Betty & Carlin -

(Who better to ask than your wonderful, wise, slutty selves?) I am a 58 year old who has been with one man for 12 years, and before that, with another for 9. Now I am being single again, and having to think about safe sex.

I know, of course, about condoms for intercourse, and heard you both extolling the virtues of finger play, and mutual masturbation, but what about oral play? Can sexually transmitted disease be passed through sucking cock and eating pussy? Any tips and advice?

Also, and advice, in general, on my situation?
thanks much!


PS - you guys are the greatest! Blessings on your good work!

Dear A,

Dangerous Sex

Fri, 04/17/2009 - 16:49
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Dodson & Ross cover the difference between having sex and
having a sexual experience. From cotton panties to manicured, lotioned
hands, it's all about pleasurable sex.